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Manners of the World

Isn’t it funny how kismet devices obscure methods to prod humans to contemplate over the more subtle subjects that life weaves around? Take boredom as one of those methods, for example. Or even dispiritedness. Whatever the cause, prophets and astrologers will probably hold the opinion that it was destiny that lead us to experience the thoughts that we do. While people nurtured in an atmosphere of science will believe it’s all to do with the biochemical reactions in the thinking centres of our brains. Either way, an uneventful day has led me to mull over the vague topic of the irony of human life.

I was within and without. Simultaneously enchanted and repelled by the inexhaustible variety of life.

– F. Scott Fitzgerald

If people looked at the stars each night, they’d live a lot differently. When you look into infinity, you realise that there more important things than what people do all day.  

It is overwhelming to notice the number of people who are completely encapsulated in the mythical bubble of freedom. We are all victims of it. The constraints that compromise the concept of freedom have disguised themselves so well, that it’s almost impossible to actually notice the imperfections and limitations that it possesses, unless we strive to delve deep into its roots, which is when we realise how strongly imprisoned we all are.

Our own intelligence – the extraordinary power that humans have – which drives the significant forces of this massive world is instrumental in bringing us to our current position. The human race is so engrossed in materialistically advancing its own status (and it is very good at that) that it has forgotten the very basic values that humanity is based on. We are so blinded by the apparent wonders our hands have managed to unravel, that it has transformed us into mindless robots running towards this vague concept of success.

People from all walks of life and levels of hierarchy blandly follow the well-established frameworks and schedules that have come to define their lives. We all think we are free to act according to our own whims and fancies and that may be true to a certain extent, but if we take the effort to step back and take a look at the bigger picture, the reality will hit us hard.

We are going to receive blasts of monotony whichever direction we peek into. Most of us go through schooling all through our childhood and well into our adulthood to get equipped to survive the cold wide world that we are usually protected from until the longest time. As students, we fall into the timetable of waking up everyday to head to schooling institutes, learn for a fixed amount of time, return home to do homework and then have the remaining time to ourselves. Then comes the time to seek our careers and choose a particular field that will probably define the majority of our remaining lives; again following a work schedule that will govern the way we live. Countries fight wars to please their own purposes and intentions and keep themselves established. People maintain their own religions and ideologies and go to war with people with different beliefs, all because they believe they are better than the other masses. Do you notice the pattern that I’m trying to illustrate here? It is in this patten, that all of us have lost our freedom. Because other than a little flexibility in choosing our careers and maybe holding some room for manoeuvring from one field to another, we don’t exactly hold the power to decide our lives. And this isn’t fate that is at play here; that is another topic in itself altogether. This is all down to the actions of humans themselves. We have set up institutes and devised ways to make life easier, and these are what now govern our lives. In doing all of this, we have become entangled in a big pile of mess, but even there, somewhere in all of this, we yet find the audacity to believe in freedom.

It is very easy to get lost in this storm of materialism that has come to grip the whole of human population. People place their own principles at such a higher level compared to others, that the difference of opinions drives them to resort to all forms of deceit. There are seven billion people, yet we have a  hundred billion faces. 

It may perhaps appear that, considering there’s so much happening simultaneously, the reason for it is something vastly complicated. We tend to get caught up in the frivolous entities that actually besiege the singular most powerful ideology that fuels the working of the whole world. Fluctuating currencies, rise and fall of oil prices and GDP rates of countries, the increment in land rates…basically everything that is related to the world economy, all of it boils down to one single philosophy – satisfaction.

Everything that is taking place around has its roots embedded in the simple concept of satisfaction.  It is the only thing that breeds a sense of happiness in us. Humans have been chasing satisfaction ever since ancient times in the hope to someday achieve it, and yet, very few can boast they have experienced satiation in its truest form. Great philosophers since ancient time like Socrates, Plato and Aristotle have their own respective visions on life. More modern theories like Marxism (based on which communism later evolved), egalitarianism, totalitarianism and utilitarianism were created in an effort of various philosophers to try and understand the human psychology and explain to the world their take on the correct way the society should exist.

Paradise can be perceived as a state of infinite satisfaction.We work hard towards realising satisfaction, and when we do achieve it for a fleeting moment, its pleasures introduce so much of joy into our lives, that our attention is completely captured by it when it leaves us. And satisfaction vanishes really swiftly, leaving a huge void in its wake. After which we follow it like lambs, slipping back into our same old robotic scheduled lives in an effort to attain satisfaction again.

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The Hate Post – Closing Gates to the Nonsensical Mind State

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Hate starts in the gut. Deep down there, where it stirs, and churns. And then it rises. Hate rises fast, and volcanically. Spreading through your veins. It erupts hot on the breath. Your eyes go wide with fire. You clench your teeth so fast, you think they’ll shatter. And you hold fists tightly, digging your nails in the palm of your hands, completely oblivious to the pain. 

It’s so easy to hate. Especially in the spur of the moment, when you’re unjustly offended, and the entire focus of your anger is that one unreasonable act against you. And you’re not fit to even consider other possibilities. Everyone experiences that. The important and distinguishing factor between you and others is to identify these ‘hating’ feelings – because that’s half the battle won.

We’re quick to judge people. Quick to jump to conclusions. It makes perfect sense to. After all, they messed up. They screwed up. So they should be the ones to suffer, shouldn’t they? We swiftly shrug all responsibilities off our shoulders. It is just so easy to blame them. 

I believe there are two kinds of hate – the sort that is thought-provoking. And then there’s this useless kind of hate. Which is based on completely absurd ideologies. A fitting specimen would be the kind of hate that Justin Bieber has been recently  on the receiving end of. So many people ridiculing the teenager. He’s literally become a laughing stock in the internet society. Want to get more Facebook likes? Make a hate status on Justin Bieber. Yes, he’s messed up a lot in life. Yes, in my opinion, his music does suck, to the core. Yes, he used to sound slightly girlish when he was young (A problem a lot of men faced in their early pre-teen years). But is that deserving of lewd, vulgar jokes? I’ll let you decide. My opinion is that he got sucked into the cruel vortex of fame at quite a young age, and probably didn’t know how to effectively handle it. No, that’s definitely not an excuse for his arrogant and egocentric nature, but surely reason enough to give him a break. It is a ‘thing’ nowadays to speak strictly against Biebs. A cheap trick to gain a small amount of popularity. Kids are being forced to ridicule Justin Bieber. A statement in favour of Bieber means you like him, and hence are worthy of being called a  ‘faggot’. To avoid bullying, we simply join hands with the crowds and declare our indefatigable hate against Bieber to the world. The question that begs to be asked here, is, why are we so desperate to merge into the herd of sheep and suppress our own thoughts instead of giving them a definite shape and form a unique opinion – our opinion? No doubt we are going to face problems while going against the crowd, but it’s definitely worth it.

The hate that accompanies a relationship break up is vey unexplainable. You tend to put your significant other on a pedestal, treating them with the utmost care you can possibly conjure. But it’s all gone, and probably, indefinitely replaced by loathe. All those qualities you found unacceptable but ignored so effortlessly, are now the very source of the dislike you claim to have for them. But in reality, you never stopped caring. Which is what is going to hurt the most. It takes time to get over it. But if its going to be so difficult, why not actually reconsider the decision to break up, unless it’s absolutely necessary, without a shadow of a doubt? It’s tough to overlook the fact that they’ve messed up. But if they genuinely look like they’re really sorry for what they’ve done, its a definite sign they care about you, probably more than you do about them. Hasty decisions will take us nowhere in life.

Ever got annoyed of that daft guy on the bus who’s uncivilly screaming into the phone without giving the slightest thought to the other passengers? Or the guy on the motorway frequently cutting lanes making it difficult for you to drive? Or maybe those people near your house making a racket at two in the morning disturbing your beauty sleep? Ugh, so selfish, so inconsiderate. You feel like just walking right up to them and slapping against their cheek until their face goes red. The satisfaction that this mere thought provides is sometimes enough to suppress the desire to actually admonish them. Sometimes.

There’s always that possibility that they’re just being pure dicks, but why not give them the benefit of the doubt? Why not, (as banal as it sounds) maybe, rise above them? Because look, here’s the thing – in most of the cases, the offender doesn’t have the faintest clue that you’re pissed off at them. They’re going to carry on with their lives, completely oblivious to the fact that you’re cursing them. So you’re at loss, aren’t you? Because you’re just going to continually think about how inconsiderate and unceremonious they were, and probably end up obsessing over it. All it’s going to do is stunt your ability to channel your thoughts and decrease your productivity.

And that’s why, I find it easier to think up of explanations for their irrational behaviour, however wild they may be, and just forget about it. Yes, I understand that it’s tough. It’s always an effort to put our judgements aside and look at someone or a situation with compassion and empathy, and be magnanimous, but we’re better people for trying – even if we don’t always succeed.

My father has always been telling me to develop this unbiased point of view. To consider all possible dimensions of a multifaceted situation. And putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. To help give some insight on the other person’s mentality.  You know, more often than sometimes our hate and anger are based on shaky grounds. It also teaches us how to deal with such personalities. Because the world out there is full of them.

I invite you to think about what I’ve said. It’s a difficult task to suppress hate, but surely not impossible. And like I said, recognising the cause is half the battle won.